Patience for? Trust to?

Patience and trust are subtly controlling words.

Not all that subtle the minute you think about it clearly.

If you are being patient you are waiting for some imagined future that you cannot control, but insisting on control anyway.

If you are trusting, you are trusting someone or something to do something or not to do something. Again:  controlling the future, not to mention another person.

Give it up.




2 Responses to “Patience for? Trust to?”

  1. Michelle Says:

    Hi, Stacy.

    Whenever debate is sparked surrounding a word or words, I like to go back to the definition to remind myself of the original intention of said words. This is what Merriam Webster Online offered:

    Main Entry: pa·tient
    Pronunciation: \ˈpā-shənt\
    Function: adjective
    Etymology: Middle English pacient, from Anglo-French, from Latin patient-, patiens, from present participle of pati to suffer; perhaps akin to Greek pēma suffering
    Date: 14th century
    1: bearing pains or trials calmly or without complaint
    2: manifesting forbearance under provocation or strain
    3: not hasty or impetuous
    4: steadfast despite opposition, difficulty, or adversity
    5 a: able or willing to bear —used with of b: susceptible, admitting
    — pa·tient·ly adverb

    Main Entry: trust
    Pronunciation: \ˈtrəst\
    Function: noun
    Etymology: Middle English, probably of Scandinavian origin; akin to Old Norse traust trust; akin to Old English trēowe faithful — more at true
    Date: 13th century
    1 a: assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something b: one in which confidence is placed
    2 a: dependence on something future or contingent : hope b: reliance on future payment for property (as merchandise) delivered : credit
    3 a: a property interest held by one person for the benefit of another b: a combination of firms or corporations formed by a legal agreement ; especially : one that reduces or threatens to reduce competition
    4archaic : trustworthiness
    5 a (1): a charge or duty imposed in faith or confidence or as a condition of some relationship (2): something committed or entrusted to one to be used or cared for in the interest of another b: responsible charge or office c: care, custody
    — in trust : in the care or possession of a trustee

    Trust doesn’t seem to come out well, much as you pointed out. But patience? I’m not sure I agree with your assessment.

    If I am patiently waiting for a bus, does that necessarily mean that I am also wishing to control that bus? What if the bus doesn’t arrive at the expected time? Continued patience would indicate to me a letting go. I can’t make the bus come any faster, so there’d be no sense in getting my knickers in a bunch.

    “Steadfast despite opposition, difficulty, or adversity”? Sounds to me like patience really is a virtue.

  2. Stacy Ann Clark Says:

    What if you are being patient “with someone?” Aren’t you wanting them to change? Hoping for them to be different in the future?

    You’re right about the present-oriented definitions of patient.

    I agree I could have been clearer about that. Does that help clarify my meaning?

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